Picking Up Girls - How You Can Show Confidence

We have all heard girls talk about how confident a guy was and how that makes him attractive. But what is this? And how can you show it?

I think the 1988 movie Colors best sums it up. There is a scene where Robert Duvall the veteran cop tells his young partner Sean Penn a joke. He says "There were two bulls on a mountain overlooking a bunch of cows. The young bull says to the Dad let's run down and have sex with one of those cows, the Dad replies lets walk down and have sex with them all."

This is why you must act confident especially if you don't feel it. When you can portray it you will be attractive to all women.

3 Steps

1. Smile - giving a girl a whole hearted genuine smile shows confidence. You are also flirting with her and you will be shocked out how many women will return your smile.

2. Don't Care - sometimes you have to pretend you don't care. For example if you approach a girl and she stops being attentive then walk away. In reality it is one fish in a huge sea, so who cares. But this shows you are not some needy, pathetic guy that is going to be at her every beckoning.

3. Act As If - This means act as if you are the man. In other words fake the confidence until you make it. It sounds bizarre but just by simply giving yourself a pep talk before you go out you will show a lot more confidence than if you do not. The truth is it is scary to approach strange girls and come up with engaging conversation material and make them like you at the same time.

However these three steps will help tremendously. When it comes to attracting the opposite sex there is nothing more unattractive than being needy and too available. Further, if she doesn't want to give you the time of day it is her loss. It really is, you are trying to meet a significant other in order to treat them well and have someone to share your life with. Unfortunately there are some guys that are looking for women to take advantage of them and abuse them.

Lastly, be positive and optimistic. People have a tendency to gravitate towards uplifting things, and women find negativity to be a turn off.

Talking To Girls – What If She Has a Boyfriend?

One of the more frustrating things when you are single is sometimes it seems like every woman you have an interest in is dating someone. The next time you are talking to a girl and she mentions having a boyfriend, you should not react.

I am not suggesting you pursue women that are in relationships, because often that leads to avoidable physical violence.I am saying that you should continue the conversation with her, regardless of the fact that she is not a potential date.

Continue to talk to her and discover her interests, while still sharing parts or yourself. Act as if you did not hear the boyfriend remark, just don't ask for her phone number at the end of the conversation. Why?

1. It is still practice. Even if a woman has a boyfriend you do not talk with her any differently than if she did not. The only thing that changes is you don't try to line up a dater. You can still have a good, engaging, conversation.

2. You can get a female opinion. There are a million and a half questions we all have for women and why they do some of the things they do. You can finally ask these questions without any worries because she is taken.

Also you can ask their opinion on things, they will enjoy telling you. Get their opinions on things ranging from a girl you are interested in, too wardrobe advice. This is an unbiased and too often untapped, resource of great knowledge.

3. If she is unavailable, she likely has some single friends. It's amazing how just making that friendship with an unavailable woman can develop into a long line of quality girls for you to date. When an unavailable female thinks highly of you, she is going to want to set you up with her friends. That way you can be another couple for her and her boyfriend to spend time with.

4. While she is dating him now, nothing is forever. I am not suggesting you lay in wait for the relationship to end. If you approach your friendship with that mindset you are doomed. However just be her friend and if things don't work out with her current significant other, then there could be a possibility of things working out with you and her.

Picking Up Women - Are You Too Nice?

You have done this if you have ever been told

"I value our friendship too much to date you"

by a girl you were friends with and tried to take it to the next
level with.

When you heard it you probably thought to yourself

"That's BS you are suppose to be friends with the person you are
dating"

And you were 100% right. She also wants to be with a man that is
going to treat her the best.

You may have been that man but you blew it. You blew it because you
were too nice.

However this is a very common mistake and everyone has made it.

The problem is when you are too nice it is often seen as pathetic,
wimpy, and insecure. Women do not want to be with a pathetic,
wimpy, insecure guy.

Instead they are looking to be with confident, secure, strong,
independent men. You can portray this more effectively by not being
so nice.

For example:

1. When meeting women do not give them any compliments.

2. Do not hold the door open for her

3. Go out of your way to tease her or make fun of her (when and
where appropriate)

4. Don't always "be there for her"

5. Take it to the "next level" before you can get categorized as a
valuable friend. (Timely Action)

Don't take this the wrong way because I am not saying to be mean to
women.

However do not be too nice. You will create the attraction with her
in your ability to have a conversation.

Approaching Women - Easy Tip To Eliminate 97% Of Rejection

 Why don't you approach every beautiful woman you see? Because the fear that she may reject and humiliate you, often leaves you feeling paralyzed.

Its OK, you are not alone. Every man experiences this fear. And did you know women get scared, nervous, sweaty palms, and draw mental blanks when they are approached by the opposite sex? They are just like you and experience very similar feelings of anxiety.

The good news is that by using a couple easy tools you can eliminate up to 97% of the possibility of humiliation. This tool does not always lead to a successful closing; however it will determine if she will be receptive to your approach or not.

I call it the smile test and this is how it works;

You see the beautiful girl and eventually you exchange eye contact. When your eyes meet, you genuinely and sincerely smile at her. If she returns your smile she is going to receptive to you initiating a conversation.

This is for a few reasons:

1.Smiling is the most basic form of flirting and best of all you don't have to say a single word.

2.If you smile at her, you are showing you are confident and assertive. You saw an attractive girl and you smiled at her.

3.Very few other men will just smile at a strange girl. This will make you unique and different from every other guy she could be dating.

4.Lastly, you don't expect women with boyfriends to be smiling at strange men because it is flirting. Thus you have a much higher likelihood that she will be single and available.

If you think back about some of the prettiest women that you have seen and wish you had talked too, likely one of these girls smiled at you. When women smile they are much more attractive. The same is true for men.

In addition when you do this, she will see you as much more approachable, confident, outgoing, and better looking. If you are nervous about rejection an easy step to get things started is to just smile at the women you find attractive.

You don't have to talk to them but notice how many return your smile. It feels really good to have good looking girls smile at you.