Picking Up Women - How to Display Optimism

When you're picking up women one of the most important qualities to display is positivity or optimism. Why?

Because it makes you appear; confident, approachable, and sociable. Think about it? For those people that have a frown on their face or are visibly angry, you don't want to spend time around them. They don't attract anyone, let alone the opposite sex!

How do you display optimism?

1. Smiling - Just by smiling you are happier. And this feeling or energy is recognized by others and especially women. Further when you smile at women you are showing your most attractive side. Think about the last women that looked at you and smiled she was much more attractive then just the pretty girl!

2. Body Language - This sounds vague so to be specific; keep your head held high, look people directly in their eyes, walk with correct posture … Additionally if you are with friends if you can show affection in a masculine way, then do so.

What I mean is if your out having some drinks with your friends say something like "aaaggghh you're my best friend blue" and give him a hug or if your with girl friends or female family member you can wrap your arm around them or whatever. This just makes you seen as more approachable and outgoing by the other women in the room.

3. When you talk with her - Talk about good things. For instance, don't complain about your obnoxious friends or how long you have had to wait at the bar. Instead talk about how great of a night it is, how great of a life you have, how great your family is, how much you love video games, or internet porn. Haha, my point is talk only about things you have something nice to say about. This will create the impression with her more that you are nice, outgoing, and sociable.

If you can successfully display these characteristics to women you will have success picking them up! When you aren't successful just remember it is one girl and there is another one right around the corner. Additionally it helps to remind yourself that rejection is the cost you and everyone has to pay in order to meet enough women to really find the right woman.

The one that you can spend the rest of your days with and really be happy with. Don't forget there are a lot of bad women so you must meet a few to really find the good ones, but they are out there!

Picking Up Girls - How to Handle Rejection

First thing you must know is that rejection is normal! It happens to everyone, if your single and meeting people at some point in time you will be rejected. It's ok that is the reason we approach and ask her out.

When you get rejected you can only act positive. Tell her it's no big deal and don't let your feelings get hurt. Why? Because it's just one girl, there is another girl you can talk to right around the corner. Further you didn't know her. And lastly the reason you asked was to see if she wanted to get together, so if she doesn't she is just answering your question and being honest.

Let me share a story with you about my own rejection. It was roughly a year ago and just so you know I experience a healthy dose of rejection on a regular basis. But I also experience a lot of success too. The way I see it is the more women you talk too no matter how great your game is you are going to have an increased dose of rejection. It is cause and effect, the more girls you talk too the more rejection you will experience . 

There are some tools to help minimize this and when you understand how to talk with women you will experience much less rejection but the equation is still true! Back to my story I stopped by a friend's house, he was having a few people over to have some drinks. I stopped in and had a drink and meet up with some friends because we were going out that night, and the host of the get together was staying there and entertaining the people that didn't go out.

Anyway I meet a girl and I talked with her for a bit. I was there maybe 15 minutes and talked with her for only a fraction of that time. As we were leaving I asked her if she wanted to get together sometime. And she said "NO." I played it cool and said "that's cool" smiled at her and left with my friends. My friends were giving me a hard time but I told them at least I tried. And I would have regretted not asking her out.

About a week later I went over to my friend's house that hosted the get together and it turns out the girl that rejected me changed her mind and wanted him to give me her phone number. But I said she had her chance and she blew it, plus it's just one girl. 

My point is just that this situation started out as a rejection from her and ended up as a rejection from me. The timing with dating is such a critical factor and sometimes girls are just weird. It often doesn't make sense and you just have to roll with the punches and the best way to do that is to approach and talk to many different girls until you meet someone you really like.