How To Pick Up Girls - 4 Essential Tips

There are four important aspects you want to portray to women in order to make yourself the most attractive.

1. Confidence – this is done through smiling, eye contact. And sometimes just not caring, after all it is just one woman.

2. Optimism – It is strange how a positive and uplifting person seems to be a magnet for people. You can do this by only talking about good things; places, events, people. In other words don’t bad mouth someone to a potential.

3. Listen – you can also call this engage her in conversation. At our very basic human level we all want to be listened too. You can show her you are listening by asking follow up questions to statements she makes. For example is she says “I just moved here from Colorado.” You can say

• Really how do you like it here?   
• Why did you move here?
• Does you family live here?

This will show her you are interested and listening. Additionally have her talk roughly 65% to your 35%. After she answers two or three of your questions, you should tell her the answers to your own questions, regardless if she asks you or not. This way she will feel like she is getting to know you too and she won’t feel as if she is being interviewed.
 

4. Don’t Chase Just Replace – This might sound cruel but it is a helpful perspective. Unfortunately, all men regardless of wealth, income, occupation, ... will be rejected sometimes. Don’t get me wrong I understand celebrities may not have as much difficulty but they do still get rejected. So if it doesn’t work out with one girl you approach, don’t worry about it because there are a million others. Further, sometimes a woman is just not in the right place to be picked up. For example is she just got out of a long relationship, she has a sick family member, her dog just died and million and a half more reasons. You never really know when strangers are experiencing these difficult times.

In sum, accept that you will be rejected sometimes. Try to learn from those situations but have a short memory because it doesn’t really matter. It is her loss; she missed out on getting to know a really good guy. Lastly, rejection is the trade off to having success. You can’t enjoy the sweet without experiencing the bitter.