Picking Up Girls - How to Handle Rejection

First thing you must know is that rejection is normal! It happens to everyone, if your single and meeting people at some point in time you will be rejected. It's ok that is the reason we approach and ask her out.

When you get rejected you can only act positive. Tell her it's no big deal and don't let your feelings get hurt. Why? Because it's just one girl, there is another girl you can talk to right around the corner. Further you didn't know her. And lastly the reason you asked was to see if she wanted to get together, so if she doesn't she is just answering your question and being honest.

Let me share a story with you about my own rejection. It was roughly a year ago and just so you know I experience a healthy dose of rejection on a regular basis. But I also experience a lot of success too. The way I see it is the more women you talk too no matter how great your game is you are going to have an increased dose of rejection. It is cause and effect, the more girls you talk too the more rejection you will experience . 

There are some tools to help minimize this and when you understand how to talk with women you will experience much less rejection but the equation is still true! Back to my story I stopped by a friend's house, he was having a few people over to have some drinks. I stopped in and had a drink and meet up with some friends because we were going out that night, and the host of the get together was staying there and entertaining the people that didn't go out.

Anyway I meet a girl and I talked with her for a bit. I was there maybe 15 minutes and talked with her for only a fraction of that time. As we were leaving I asked her if she wanted to get together sometime. And she said "NO." I played it cool and said "that's cool" smiled at her and left with my friends. My friends were giving me a hard time but I told them at least I tried. And I would have regretted not asking her out.

About a week later I went over to my friend's house that hosted the get together and it turns out the girl that rejected me changed her mind and wanted him to give me her phone number. But I said she had her chance and she blew it, plus it's just one girl. 

My point is just that this situation started out as a rejection from her and ended up as a rejection from me. The timing with dating is such a critical factor and sometimes girls are just weird. It often doesn't make sense and you just have to roll with the punches and the best way to do that is to approach and talk to many different girls until you meet someone you really like.

Picking Up Girls - 3 Easy Steps To Success

When meeting women the biggest obstacle to overcome is not being seen as a creepy guy. So here are a 3 easy steps to take to be successful picking up women.

1. Smile

Creepy guys do not look women in the eyes and smile.  When you smile at women you are just being nice and warm. Smiling is also a form of flirting. If a woman returns your smile she thinks you are cute. She will also be receptive to you approaching her and starting a conversation.

2. Talk to her

This is where you can really separate yourself from every other guy that has hit on her. Ask her questions such as where she is from, where she went to school, how big her family is. When she answers these questions it gives you material for further conversation.

For example, if she says she has two sisters then you can ask her if she is close with them, if she is the oldest, what her sisters do for work or if they have children. To avoid this being seen as an interview process, answer your own questions. For example tell her about your family after you have talked about hers.

3. No pressure

When you ask for her number, do not pressure her.  Do not ask her to dinner or an event. Instead just say

"It was nice to talk with you, do you want to get together sometime?" 

If you ask her to dinner, it is a bit scary because you don't really know each other. Asking her to dinner will pressure her or scare her. This is because it could be a bad date and then you would both be stuck together for an entire meal.

Using these 3 steps, will make you more attractive and desirable to women!

Picking Up Girls - How You Can Show Confidence

We have all heard girls talk about how confident a guy was and how that makes him attractive. But what is this? And how can you show it?

I think the 1988 movie Colors best sums it up. There is a scene where Robert Duvall the veteran cop tells his young partner Sean Penn a joke. He says "There were two bulls on a mountain overlooking a bunch of cows. The young bull says to the Dad let's run down and have sex with one of those cows, the Dad replies lets walk down and have sex with them all."

This is why you must act confident especially if you don't feel it. When you can portray it you will be attractive to all women.

3 Steps

1. Smile - giving a girl a whole hearted genuine smile shows confidence. You are also flirting with her and you will be shocked out how many women will return your smile.

2. Don't Care - sometimes you have to pretend you don't care. For example if you approach a girl and she stops being attentive then walk away. In reality it is one fish in a huge sea, so who cares. But this shows you are not some needy, pathetic guy that is going to be at her every beckoning.

3. Act As If - This means act as if you are the man. In other words fake the confidence until you make it. It sounds bizarre but just by simply giving yourself a pep talk before you go out you will show a lot more confidence than if you do not. The truth is it is scary to approach strange girls and come up with engaging conversation material and make them like you at the same time.

However these three steps will help tremendously. When it comes to attracting the opposite sex there is nothing more unattractive than being needy and too available. Further, if she doesn't want to give you the time of day it is her loss. It really is, you are trying to meet a significant other in order to treat them well and have someone to share your life with. Unfortunately there are some guys that are looking for women to take advantage of them and abuse them.

Lastly, be positive and optimistic. People have a tendency to gravitate towards uplifting things, and women find negativity to be a turn off.